This is not the point, but I need to say it.

The point of this blog is to remind me of the joys in my life, and to sort of keep me focused on the positive, because I have developed a habit of letting my attention drift towards the bad that has been inflicted upon us. However, I have just read about someones experience when it was let slip that they were submissive whilst getting a procedure in the hospital. It was nothing severe, but it was instantly interpreted by the nurse as negative. In response another person defended the nurses view, and explained they are trained to think that way, and even said something along the lines of better safe than sorry. Better safe than sorry makes everything O.K. I want to say no, it's not. It's not O.K. because it isn't safe to assume the worst. That attitude is referred to as "Thinking Dirty", and the term means medical and law enforcement personnel work from the base assumption that abuse happened. They begin their involvement from the assumption that the abuse they suspect is real, did happen, and never allow themselves to consider that possibly it is not or seek the truth about what is going on. That attitude hurts people.

I know it hurts people because that's what happened to us. I want to say to those that would defend society that even in an effort to protect the abused and oppressed it's not O.K. to out a family by name in the newspaper because you can not conceive of two smart, capable, strong willed women CHOOSING to love, much less obey, the same man. It's not O.K. to rip a child from their home on the off chance that there is some kind of abuse after that home has been investigated TWICE without a single indication of any abuse or neglect occurring. Especially after you have placed another child in the home while that child's parent was incarcerated because you certified it safe. It is definitely NOT O.K. for two adults to interrogate a child and then call the child a liar to their face when the child does not tell them what they want to hear because the child told the truth. It is not O.K. to so terrify the child that that child is afraid to reside anywhere in your state out of fear of being snatched and completely isolated and removed from their family by you. It is not O.K. to rip a mothers heart out by those same tactics resulting in her child being driven away. It is not O.K. to ruin a decades work building a business and a reputation with lies that you later admit you've never had any evidence of. It is not O.K. to imprison people for something you later admit you have never had any evidence of. It is not O.K. to cause so much stress and fear to a healthy person, especially one whom you actually classify as a victim that they suffer medically diagnosed PTSD on a par with soldiers enduring combat in the Middle East. Panic attacks and heart trouble and neurological disorder so intense that it results in medically diagnosed disability.

We were law abiding citizens in what purports to be a free country. We volunteer with the homeless and with disadvantaged children. We give blood regularly. We pay our taxes and help out with the neighborhood watch. We did our part and paid our share without complaint and when we went beyond even that out of our belief in helping others because it's the right thing to do, we were accused of having ulterior motives for no other reason than our lifestyle. Because apparently according to your beliefs alternative lifestyle people can't possibly be motivated by anything other than sex. Well here's a shock, that's not true! We were the people you were supposed to protect! Instead you tried to destroy us because you disapproved of our choice to share one anothers lives and love. And now you justify it by saying "Well abuse does sometimes happen, better safe than sorry"?

Let me point something out. While it is heinous enough that you were destroying our livelihood, maiming my Lady, causing severe mental distress to all of us and mentally and emotionally raping our young child, you were also utterly failing to protect whichever poor soul was actually being abused because you were distracted by your distaste for our choices. And you prevented us from being able to help as well. You increased the problem.

They say the road to Hell is paved with good intentions. I'm not convinced of your good intentions. I think you want to force your views on others that do not share them. But none of that matters any more. I am convinced you will burn in Hell, because no matter what you say to try to justify all you've done, nothing of what you've done is ever O.K.